Grief is a difficult journey. In the best of circumstances, when we are moving forward because we are facing our new reality it is difficult. Often we have discussed the importance of finding an outlet for our emotions and thoughts. We know we are fulfilling our responsibilities whatever they be to the best of our ability. We are carving a new life of joy in every way possible as we build new relationships in our various divisions in life; work, worship, extended family, or friends.
Even when we can look back and see that we have made progress at moving forward (on) with our new life, there still may be surges of emotion that come over us at different times unexpected and unannounced that bring a tear or tears to our eye(s). This is ok and usually it only lasts a brief moment. These episodes I will call them, will be infrequent usually less and less as distance places itself between you and the date of your loss.
What sometimes may happen is when a couple losses a child and one does not face the reality well, this can place an enormous burden and stress upon the relationship. If the relationship was already strained then there is a great risk of collapse. It is estimated that about two thirds of marriages dissolve sometime after the loss of a child. This is preventable in my estimation, but it will require proactive behavior with both halves of the marital union. Someone needs to recognize early on that one or both are not responding well to their loss and move to make correction and thereby save the marriage from devastation.
The hurt can mend if both husband and wife desire and are willing to do whatever must be done to heal and begin anew. Seek outside help if necessary. It is available, and it works. This is Sunrise.